Thrive With Conflict

What kind of conflict are you experiencing today? How are you handling that conflict? The conflicts I go through and gone through as a person, beatboxer, voice actor, faith blogger, and mathematician are fascinating in its dynamic.

I discovered that conflict is appealing.

Conflict in relationships and conflict in communication are important to have. A conflict is healthy for relationships when all parties have a shared goal in mind toward a resolution. To squash the beef. curry. How does one handle a conflict? Is one to buckle under tremendous pressure. Shut down? Freeze? Run away? Avoid? Or does one thrive in conflict. Thrive with conflict. Conflict is important for growth and maturity. Responsibility.

Does one confront their conflict? Are you one who will be able to engage with your conflict and be at the forefront of a conflict?


The complexities of math problems and conflicts are dynamic. Math has taught me how to apply it to resolve conflicts and complex problems in life by applying math principles honed and developed. Math works for my life's conflicts.

Avoiding a math problem, does not resolve that problem on its own.

Walking away, running away, turning away from a math conflict does not resolve it on its own if there is a goal in mind to resolve a conflict.

When there's no goal of resolving a conflict, then there's no resolution.

Abandoning the problem, does not make that problem vanish when there's a goal in mind to resolve that problem. That conflict will eventually catch up.

In my faith walk, I enjoy most about how Jesus dealt with conflict in the Gospel of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. Jesus kept it "real."

When there's conflict... there might be those prone to react irrationally.

But I've learned that it's important to develop and hone tools of how to thrive in conflict. Thrive with conflict.

Be composed under even tremendous pressure. To not react irrationally. With a goal in mind to resolve whichever conflict. Character.

Professional conflict. Personal conflict. Family conflict. Health conflict.

Interpersonal conflict.

Intrapersonal conflict.

Financial conflict. Religious conflict. Political conflict.

Facing conflict requires that of courage. A must if there's any resolution to be sought for. There needs to be a boldness to fight for what needs to be fought for. And with "fight" it's not the physical nor domestic kind of fight. This "fight" is the kind of fight that is the effort put into resolving challenging circumstances.

When we don't fight for what is ought to be fought for, we could lose what's most important in our lives.

Conflict could be small, it could be big.

Conflict is a good thing in relationships. Conflict is important in communication.

Why?

How so?

Growth. Maturity.

It's better to have a friend who does not always necessarily agree, but is willing to let you know what you need to hear. Not what you want to hear. An honest and a loyal friend who keeps it real is a keeper. Integrity.

There is a way to deliver it to address the conflict. What kind of conflict are you experiencing today? How are you handling that conflict?

8 comments

  • A.M.Rodby
    A.M.Rodby Aiea Hawaii
    Our conflict is due to this upsetting C19 & the lockdown which apparently the president, the mayor, & the governor DID NOT take into an account, & they felt that everyone would be ok with it, NO we are not ok with it, it came with a large consequences!! The businesses slowed down, no one wants to make &/or give money, it's one big cycle of life, really! !! This is so disgusting & revolting, yes granted it's for everyone's health sake to help this C19 to subsidie quicker, but, we can all take that precautionary measure, and we have been , with that 6 feet apart every we go, with that rule (NOT THE LAW) , we CAN survive this financially, while we continue to be careful ourselves, to wear mask, & that we don't get sick, don't sneeze on others, etc that I know for a fact that we can also survive this health wise as well as the financial wise. All we need is to just to be smart about it ourselves & to stay healthy and to keep pressing on.

    Our conflict is due to this upsetting C19 & the lockdown which apparently the president, the mayor, & the governor DID NOT take into an account, & they felt that everyone would be ok with it, NO we are not ok with it, it came with a large consequences!! The businesses slowed down, no one wants to make &/or give money, it's one big cycle of life, really! !! This is so disgusting & revolting, yes granted it's for everyone's health sake to help this C19 to subsidie quicker, but, we can all take that precautionary measure, and we have been , with that 6 feet apart every we go, with that rule (NOT THE LAW) , we CAN survive this financially, while we continue to be careful ourselves, to wear mask, & that we don't get sick, don't sneeze on others, etc that I know for a fact that we can also survive this health wise as well as the financial wise. All we need is to just to be smart about it ourselves & to stay healthy and to keep pressing on.

  • Gale
    Gale Oahu
    Conflicts are inevitable because we're all not going to agree on everything. We all have our own opinions and how we view things. The best way to resolve a conflict is when both parties strive for peace and unity. The worse thing is to ignore the conflict by walking away. The best way is to confront and reconcile. A conflict isn't a matter of who wins. It takes a lot of work to resolve a conflict. You need to be a good listener and allow the other person to speak too. Although having the right skills will resolve a conflict, I also believe that you need to have good character in order to resolve a conflict too, like being patient and understanding, being empathetic and caring, showing kindness and gentleness and being respectful. Let love be the driving force to resolve any conflict.

    Conflicts are inevitable because we're all not going to agree on everything. We all have our own opinions and how we view things. The best way to resolve a conflict is when both parties strive for peace and unity. The worse thing is to ignore the conflict by walking away. The best way is to confront and reconcile. A conflict isn't a matter of who wins. It takes a lot of work to resolve a conflict. You need to be a good listener and allow the other person to speak too. Although having the right skills will resolve a conflict, I also believe that you need to have good character in order to resolve a conflict too, like being patient and understanding, being empathetic and caring, showing kindness and gentleness and being respectful. Let love be the driving force to resolve any conflict.

  • Cherry-Anne Sattefield
    Cherry-Anne Sattefield Los Angeles
    I think I am mentally strong with conflict. I am recently learning that people can't have anyone disagreeing with them.I had too parents that got divorced I come from a broken home. However my mother loves unusual people and talking to people that don't share the same values as her. Matter of a fact she is the one that told me to invite you to church that day. She is has versatility. where as my father used to fly off at the handle when you didn't see things his way or hang up on you. I has gotten too much so I cut him off...not totally but I had to set boundaries. I like debates I adore different people. God says we are all different that whats makes us special. However I will not be unequally yoked when it comes to God. But my sister told me you should not be so heavenly minded that you're no earthly good. Meaning you should be open to sharing about the gospel to a person the want to know. I loved what my grand mother on my father's side said when I got into an arguement with my sister " no one is above you or below you respect her and you will be respected and if she don't want to respect you can always walk away, y'all can agree to disagree." I tent to be an island sometimes because i let people do what they have to do to get where they got to go. I have 5 sisters so I have sis agreements all the time but I just deal with it I don't get angry, it's not that I don't care I believe people will make their own decisions.

    I think I am mentally strong with conflict. I am recently learning that people can't have anyone disagreeing with them.I had too parents that got divorced I come from a broken home. However my mother loves unusual people and talking to people that don't share the same values as her. Matter of a fact she is the one that told me to invite you to church that day. She is has versatility. where as my father used to fly off at the handle when you didn't see things his way or hang up on you. I has gotten too much so I cut him off...not totally but I had to set boundaries. I like debates I adore different people. God says we are all different that whats makes us special. However I will not be unequally yoked when it comes to God. But my sister told me you should not be so heavenly minded that you're no earthly good. Meaning you should be open to sharing about the gospel to a person the want to know. I loved what my grand mother on my father's side said when I got into an arguement with my sister " no one is above you or below you respect her and you will be respected and if she don't want to respect you can always walk away, y'all can agree to disagree." I tent to be an island sometimes because i let people do what they have to do to get where they got to go. I have 5 sisters so I have sis agreements all the time but I just deal with it I don't get angry, it's not that I don't care I believe people will make their own decisions.

  • Marilena
    Marilena România
    About conflict, sometimes is goo to avoid it, sometimes is good to have it. Depending of the situation. Is true that avoiding a conflict doesn't solve problems and when it comes to that, I try to explain, to communicate, to make the other person to understand my point of view. But not everyone thinks the same and that conflict may never end up because for instance my side of story doesn't match with the other person story that may both stories (problems) be real (not fake or invented) and we, the one in conflict only look at the half of the truth of the whole image of the story. Depending of the conflicts, as I mentioned, sometimes is better to stay away. Can't have conflicts with people who fight or arguing on streets, involving in those kind of conflicts will not end good for anyone. There are also some interior conflicts with yourself that I consider them the hardest ones. Sometimes is so hard to take a decision that can change everything and from here the interior conflicts with ourselves.

    About conflict, sometimes is goo to avoid it, sometimes is good to have it. Depending of the situation. Is true that avoiding a conflict doesn't solve problems and when it comes to that, I try to explain, to communicate, to make the other person to understand my point of view. But not everyone thinks the same and that conflict may never end up because for instance my side of story doesn't match with the other person story that may both stories (problems) be real (not fake or invented) and we, the one in conflict only look at the half of the truth of the whole image of the story. Depending of the conflicts, as I mentioned, sometimes is better to stay away. Can't have conflicts with people who fight or arguing on streets, involving in those kind of conflicts will not end good for anyone. There are also some interior conflicts with yourself that I consider them the hardest ones. Sometimes is so hard to take a decision that can change everything and from here the interior conflicts with ourselves.

  • Jeannie Choi
    Jeannie Choi Washington
    I like that!! When there is a goal in mind to that conflict, IT WON'T go away. Solve....This is great!! Thank you, Jason!

    I like that!! When there is a goal in mind to that conflict, IT WON'T go away. Solve....This is great!! Thank you, Jason!

  • Gale
    Gale Oahu
    Another key ingredient to resolving conflict is forgiveness. There has to be forgiveness from both parties in order to move forward.

    Another key ingredient to resolving conflict is forgiveness. There has to be forgiveness from both parties in order to move forward.

  • Kimberly jane welker
    Kimberly jane welker Hawaii
    This is amazing

    This is amazing

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous California
    Talofa Jason ! I wanted to take a moment and send a prayer for your Vibe your gift this is your TIME and with God on your side there is nothing you will not be able to do for the message you share is WORD right now with how things are going I would like to be humble and ask you to share your gift on every way that is possible on SOCIAL MEDIA and in every platform you can be part of I will also share your gift and I thank you especially now be Blessed little USO ! Rini

    Talofa Jason ! I wanted to take a moment and send a prayer for your Vibe your gift this is your TIME and with God on your side there is nothing you will not be able to do for the message you share is WORD right now with how things are going I would like to be humble and ask you to share your gift on every way that is possible on SOCIAL MEDIA and in every platform you can be part of I will also share your gift and I thank you especially now be Blessed little USO ! Rini

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